Good Is Not Enough

I take issue with the idea that being Christian is synonymous with being “good”. Being a “good Christian” is used like a shield when issues arise that are less than positive. Being a Christian is not an excuse for bad behavior. 

I say this as I am reading articles surrounding the allegations of molestation within the Duggar Family. If you are unfamiliar with the Duggar’s, they are a family of 19 children (and counting) headed by Jim Bob and Michelle. They are touted as a good Christian family, holding virtues such as no hand holding or kissing until after marriage. 

You’d think being occupied with their 19 children, a television show all about themselves and an active Christian lifestyle, that they would be far too busy for activism… Yet they have time to be homophobic/transphobic lobbyists. In fact, they are so concerned about LGBT folk that they have been quoted as saying they should not be able to raise families and that they are in fact, child molesters.

If you’ve made it this far without feeling ill, read on. For here is the hypocrisy of this good Christian family… Their eldest son, Josh, an active, vocal lobbyist against the LGBT community is currently being exposed to the world as a child molester himself! 

And this is where I start getting irritated by this idea of “good Christians” being used as an excuse for bad behavior. There are people defending his actions because he has waited until after marriage to kiss his wife, his parents knew of his actions and got him “help” within their church and he built homes… For what? To in some way hammer in that he is a good Christian and not a child molester?

If you are making excuses for his actions, stop. He was 15, taking advantage of much younger girls (including his sisters) and no amount of prayer is going to erase that, the same as no amount of prayer can erase or change someone’s sexuality.

There are good Christians, I think most Christians are good. I know my husband is, his family members are, our friends are. But being Christian does not and should not give people a get out of jail free card. It should not be held up like a shield or rather in this case a shade being pulled over the darker truths. 

I leave you with this thought.

God wants us to be the craftsmen of good work. Whatever it may be. He does not look at what we produce as decent based on the symbolism (in this case the cross) as a mark of good works. It is in the quality of the product that you produce. We can all mark ourselves with crosses and label ourselves good, but it is aesthetic in the eyes of the Lord. 

Edited to add:

This isn’t an attack on Christianity as a whole. It isn’t an attack at all. It’s the tearing down of the shade that has been put up by a family that do call themselves good Christians, for people to see the hypocrisy of their words and actions.

This isn’ta case of a random Christian being exposed as a child molester. This is a family in the spotlight who are displaying themselves as having all the ideal virtues of a Christian family and lifestyle. They are actively against the LGBT community and have gone as far as labeling a whole group of people molesters for it.

The words pot, kettle and black come to mind.

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Time Flies When You’re Having Fun!

Motherhood is fun and time moves far too quickly! It feels like only yesterday that I was telling Curtis I was pregnant with Calvin and even more recently that I was announcing that we were expecting Mia. 

Now I have a 2.5 year old and an almost 6 month old. Mia still has the new baby smell, whilst Calvin smells of that little boy combination of soil and sweat after a playful morning at the park. 

So today I’m looking back fondly at Calvin’s birth story and Mia’s too. 

Now, does anyone know how to slow down time so I can savor them being so small for a while longer? 

The Inequality of the Dad Bod

I think its awesome that the media is looking at dads and saying it’s okay for them to have a “Dad Bod” because they are focusing on enjoying their families. Celebrities such as Adam Sandler (below), Jason Segal and Leonardo DiCaprio, to name a few are being praised by the media for embracing their new shape. But, it leaves a nasty taste in my mouth at the inequality this movement is highlighting.

  
Women are bombarded with messages in society that tell them they need to get their “bodies back” as if they were some sort of ethereal vapor during pregnancy. Why can’t a movement about the average post partum body gain traction in mainstream media the same way? 

There are projects out there, the  4th Trimester Bodies Project is one of them! It celebrates the changed female form that motherhood brings. It does it without the pressure on new moms to get back in the gym to obtain what in a lot of cases is an unattainable body image unless you have full time childcare and a personal trainer and chef on hand!

I’m not saying that getting “bikini fit” isn’t possible, but why is there so much pressure to do so? Why can’t we enjoy our softer midsections, our wider hips that expertly balance our babies? If a dad is praised for his post partum spread with the same focus on his family as mothers have, why is the pressure to fit some idealized body type on us?

It’s inequality however you try to paint in. Dads, keep rocking your “Dad Bods”, but when you look at your partners I hope you are seeing the beauty of her body too, the vessel that carried and nurtured your children for 9+ months! And mainstream media, shame on you for making new moms feel as though their bodies are somehow not good enough despite the amazing feat they just performed!

Review: Babyganics Shampoo and Bodywash

When my son was born I started out using Johnson’s baby products. I loved the smell but worried about the amount of synthetic ingredients on his sensitive skin, especially on his cute booty!

I went searching for something more natural and came across the Babyganics line. I’ve tried a few of their products now (which I’ll review later) but their Fragrance Free Shampoo and Body Wash is my favorite. It contains No: parabens, sulfates, phthalates, mineral oil, petrolatum, fragrances or dyes.

  

It’s a foaming wash in a pump bottle which is really convenient for the times when you are needing one hand free to stop an excited toddler from soaking the bathroom floor! It’s also easy for him (my 2.5 year old) to pump onto his wash cloth himself. 

Calvin hates getting soap in his eyes (don’t we all?) but this is truly tear free, so even when he’s splish splashing about, he’s not crying when it gets in his eyes. I also use this with my 5 month old and it’s comforting to know that it’s allergen free so I’m not worried about rashes from harsh chemicals. 

*This is not a paid review, just a mom having fun!

Reviews

Ive been toying around with the idea of doing some product reviews on here. They aren’t paid reviews, just my take as a mom on some of the baby/kids products I use. Taking care of my kids is my job and having tools that help me do that in an effective manner is extremely important to me. 

So, you might be seeing the occasional product review, and I promise that it won’t take up every blog post!